mainly music is a fun and social time for the whole family – but it’s also much more than that! There’s physical, spiritual and educational connection points in what we do.
Here’s a summary of some research from the Brainwave Trust Aotearoa about healthy parenting in these moments of connection:
Backbone Parenting: Love and Limits!
We know every child and family situation is different, but if there was one sure recipe for happy, healthy kids it can come down to two key factors: love and limits.
First comes Love. Our first primary job as parents is to love – to love fully and unconditionally. Caring for a child’s emotional needs is every bit as important as their obvious physical requirements. You cannot love a child too much – you can not spoil them with too much love. Love, expressed through physical touch, talking, smiling, singing, dancing, telling stories, mucking about together and just being silly – all builds a strong foundation for a secure, happy child from which they can grow, learn and explore their world.
“Every bath, every nappy change, and every cuddle are opportunities to help a child feel loved”
Keryn O’Neill, Brainwave Trust Aotearoa
Limits - providing structure to their world. Secure on a love foundation, every child needs to have their world constructed with clear and consistent limits. Your children look to you as their guide to discovering their world – and they are not stifled but rather flourish under firm but fair limits.
Limits needs to grow with your child – the more they are able to understand, the more we need to explain and help them understand the rules. When they are younger, boundaries tend to be more physical (preventing our young explorers from hurting themselves); but as they grow boundaries and limits are there to help them learn acceptable and appropriate behaviour.
Love and Limits: the two go hand in hand. They form the backbone of our parenting journey – and it’s not a short trip! Parenting is often described as a marathon – not a sprint! And the best possible start for your family begins with both Love and Limits.