Most of us agree with the sentiment that it’s good to give! But the reality is that giving is not always easy. So why is giving ‘good’?
Firstly, giving is good for those who are getting! Who doesn’t love a gift – no matter how small? A simple smile and word of encouragement can be enough to turn your day around. When we see others doing something for us – or giving something to us – we feel loved. We feel a connection to that other person, and feel as though that other person cares for us.
Sometimes, though, it can be hard to receive. Sometimes we can feel uneasy or unworthy of someone else’s gift. But being able to receive a gift is being able to receive someone else’s care and affection.
But giving is also great for the givers! The old saying that ‘it is better to give than to receive’ is true – and it’s been scientifically proven! Studies have shown that giving makes the giver feel good – so much so that volunteering and helping others is often suggested as a treatment for people suffering from depression.
But like receiving, it can be hard to give. We can have so many insecurities about what we are going to give – will they like it? Will it be enough? Will it be accepted? Being able to give a gift is being able to consider your care and affection as something worthy of receiving.
You see? Giving and receiving go hand in hand. Both acts require both people to understand their worth – that what I have to give has worth – and that I am worthy to receive such a gift.
Both givers and receivers need each other – because no matter who we are, we want to belong and share life with others. The act of giving is at the heart of what it means to belong.
One of the five core values of mainly music and mainly play is generosity. As volunteers, our mainly music and mainly play teams each week give so much of their time, energy and heart into their sessions. Parents and care givers give their time and attention to their little ones each week in music, story and song. And the little ones give us all their smiles, their giggles of contentment, and give us the joy of watching them grow and learn.
And with of all of this giving to one another – we are all receivers!
From the Bible: “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously.” 2 Corinthians 9:6