Monthly Archives: February 2016

  • Passing on your values doesn't have to be at special times. While we're 'doing life' is as good as anything. Reading a story and reflecting on the content. "What would you do if you'd been Sam?"
    "Tell me what you think Sally was feeling when she spoke like that?" Use the story content to pass on your values by encouraging your child to speak out their thoughts. Keep asking questions rather than passing judgement.

    Another 'life time' is when you're in the car. Using questions, without interrogation, can be helpful way to get a picture into your child's thoughts. "Why do you think your friend said that?" "What could you do if that happened again?" Rather than hooking up the DVD player or passing over the tablet, use car time to converse.

    You'll be pleased you've made this a habit as your children get older. A car is a wonderful place to chat - you're not looking eye to eye and for the most part, your older primary or teen can't get away!

    meal times are fantastic occasions to speak truth into your child's esteem. Have each person tell one thing they love about the other around the table. You'll find sibling rivalry reduces the more you undertake this reinforcement of 'you are loved for who you are'.

    Staging special times for values is important too. Birthdays can be a chance to celebrate the child's character development. "You're becoming such a generous person. We've noticed this year how you share with your sister".

    In ancient times, God asked the people to remember important events and create a memorial. This ensured that as the generations passed, the story relating to that occasion was retold. In a similar way we use Easter and Christmas, Thanksgiving, ANZAC and Independence Day. Photo albums, whether in a book or on a tablet, can be modern day memorials. Link the occasions to what you remember of the people involved. "You were incredibly patient that day as we waited for the parade. I love how patient you are".

    What motivates your values? how do you measure them? Take time out to think about your values and how you'll pass them on to your children.

  • When you're at mainly music, there are songs and rhymes that involved props. Sometimes those props are given out to everyone, like maracas or scarves. And other times, there are props given out to only five children who come to the front to hold them.

    And then the crying begins!

    If your child loathes being left out, rather than scold them, ask the team to 'not forget your child in future', or wish there were only five children in your session, here are some ideas to help your child learn from a very young age about being a team player. This is going to take time. With the end in mind [I want to develop a team player], keep persevering in the process of teaching your child.

    Distract your child by whispering into their ear about the props at the front. "Look at the colours of those ladybugs - what colour do you see?" "I wonder if Sophie will drop her ladybug. Do you think she will?"

    Celebrate the other children who are at the front. "How cool is it that Marcus got to hold the duckling? Are you ready to clap when he holds it up?"

    If your child will not calm, take her out. But first, give her the change to make that choice. "Samantha, we cannot enjoy the mainly music session if you are going to scream about the lollipops at the front. You can either stop screaming or i will take you out to the foyer. It's your choice. "And make sure you follow through. No counting or no bargaining from you; no semi-screams from your child. Out in the foyer you can advise your child, "We can back into music when you are ready to participate. Other children are having a turn this week. You will have a turn another day. I will wait with you until you calm down. Tell me when you are ready to go back in with a smile."

    Delight in your child when it is their turn. Don't look at your phone. Make eye contact and smile while they're at the front. When you child returns, triumphant that it was their turn, smile and give a hug or high five. Tell them what and amazing job they did holding the big picture. Delighting in your child is a key attachment activity. When they know you love and adore them, no matter what, they feel secure and find a sense of belonging.

    If your child is cautious but willing about going to the front, go with them. At mainly music, we're about the connection you can have with your child in the session. Don't force them to be confident. Help them gain confidence in holding a prop. Make sure you child has some degree of willingness though.

    And during the week, practice. In the car, talk about how excited you'll be to see Amy and Oscar at the front with puppets. At home, have your child hold something related to a song or rhyme you can remember or play a song from the Greatest Hits range. Practice turn taking - have teddy or dolly hold one of the props, then your child. Encourage your child to be the session facilitator at home with the soft toys. Congratulate toys who take part. And if any soft toy cries because they want the prop, take it into another room and with a voice loud enough for your child to hear, state what you'd be saying if it was the real thing!

    Hope you have fun.

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If there has been a natural (or man made) disaster in your country, like fires, floods or even terrorism, and you'd like to support the groups in that area, depending which country you give from, we'll make sure these groups get help. The money will go to celebration items (like Christmas books or birthday gifts) and financial support of the local groups affected.
Families at risk
We're connecting with families who don't always see the value of mainly music sessions first off - but when they attend other services provided by agencies and participate, their smiles return as they connect with their child. It fills mum's life and develops the bond with her children.
Bring connection during Covid-19
We have many stories where mothers say, "I went to my GP. I was told to go on medication. I found mainly music. I don't need medication at all." Post natal depression, social isolation, anxiety along with Covid-19 restrictions can stop anyone in their tracks. Contributing to this fund from anywhere in the world will help those mainly music groups who are struggling financially.
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